Responding to a Suicide Risk Alert
Responding to a Suicide Risk Alert for Your Child
This is an incredibly difficult situation, and your immediate actions are crucial. Here's guidance on how to respond:
Immediate Steps to Take
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Take it seriously - All suicide warnings must be treated as genuine emergencies, regardless of whether you believe it might be for attention.
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Stay with your child - Do not leave them alone. Remove access to potential means of self-harm, including medications, weapons, or other dangerous items.
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Connect with professional help immediately:
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Call the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (available 24/7)
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Text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line
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Take your child to the nearest emergency room if the situation is urgent
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Contact your child's therapist if they have one
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How to Talk with Your Child
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Remain calm - Despite your own fear and anxiety, try to approach conversations with composure.
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Listen without judgment - Create a safe space for them to express their feelings without fear of criticism or punishment.
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Ask direct questions - It's okay to gently ask: "Are you thinking about hurting yourself?" or "Have you thought about suicide?" Asking about suicide does not increase risk.
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Validate their feelings - Say things like "I hear how much pain you're in" and "I'm here and I care about you" rather than trying to talk them out of their feelings.
Next Steps
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Follow through with recommended treatment - This may include therapy, medication, or hospitalization if necessary.
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Develop a safety plan with mental health professionals that includes:
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Warning signs to watch for
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Coping strategies
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People your child can contact when in crisis
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Emergency contact information
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Maintain open communication at home about mental health.
Taking Care of Yourself
This situation is traumatic for parents as well. Seek support through:
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Therapists or counselors
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Support groups for parents
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Your own trusted friends and family
Remember that you don't have to handle this alone, and getting your child the help they need is the most important thing you can do right now.
The Facts
20-30%
of kids report having been cyberbullied in their lifetime.
10%
of kids report having been a cyberbully.
95%
of teens have access to a smartphone, making this a common tool for cyberbullying.

Ask
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Has anyone ever tried talking to you online about inappropriate or sexual things? What did you do?
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Do you trust all of your online friends? Are there any people you should unfriend or block?
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Do you know how to report, flag, or block people on the websites and apps you use? Can you show me?
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Who would you talk to if you were upset by a request you received online?
If you see something online that's meant to hurt someone, don't "like" or share it. Think about how you'd feel if someone did that to you.
It's OK not to like someone. It's not OK to bully them.
If someone cyberbullies you, you may want to send a mean comment back, but it could make this worse. Instead, save the evidence and report it.
Being a good digital citizen means standing up for others. Take steps to help peers being cyberbullied (eg., post nice comments, sit with them at lunch, report the harassment, etc.).
Reinforce

A child who is being cyberbullied may
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Avoid using the Internet
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Seem stressed when getting an email, text, or other message
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Withdraw from family and friends
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Resist attending school and social events
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Show signs of low self-esteem like depression or fear
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Have declining grades
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Stop eating or sleeping
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In serious cases, consider suicide
teach them to
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Not respond
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Save the evidence Any online harassment that is sexual in nature should also be reported to Report.CyberTip.org.
you should
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Meet with school administrators to discuss a plan of action and their bullying/cyberbullying policy
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Talk about the situation with the bully’s parent or guardian
If your child is being cyberbullied

Stand Up To It
If your child sees someone being cyberbullied, tell them to
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Not forward embarrassing photos or messages
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Not comment on insulting or harassing posts
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Report it to the website or app
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Tell a teacher at school if it involves a classmate
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Support the victim by being a good friend and showing the cyberbullies they won’t join in